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Are You Happy With Your Dating Life?

Whether you’re just jumping back into the dating scene or been on quite a few dates this summer, it’s important to get a refresher on dating tips and an attitude makeover so you don’t get burnt out from dating. Dating for professional singles can be fun and fulfilling, but there is a few challenges that come along with it. Here are a few tips for singles to help improve their dating life for the better.

Keep Your Expectations Realistic

It’s okay to set higher standards for yourself, but keep in mind that no one is perfect. Emphasize your partner's good qualities by being supportive and encouraging. Be forgiving of the imperfections and be willing to make compromises.

Patience Really Is a Virtue

One of the biggest reasons relationships fail is that people are just too busy to make time for each other. Set your priorities straight and find ways on how you can spend more time with your partner. Catching up on a quick lunch date or investing on a romantic weekend getaway will do wonders for your relationship.

Go On An Adventure

Make it a point to do something different with your partner every now and then. Go to a place you haven’t eaten before, or go on a road trip to that secluded resort you’ve heard of. Doing something different with your partner will refresh your senses. It will also keep the fire burning in your relationship.

Leave a Relationship When You Aren't Feeling Happy

Knowing when to let go can be one of the most difficult decisions we make involving relationships. But, if you find that the relationship is not satisfying your needs, don't wait around for things to change. If you have discussed your needs with your partner and they are not being met, consider ending the relationship. Many people stay in unhealthy relationships because they fear being alone. But, you might found yourself happier single than in a relationship that is draining you. Mr. or Mrs. Right could be right around the corner but you'll never know if you keep on dating Mr. or Mrs. Wrong.  

 

Guys: Effortless Tips Guaranteed To Make Your Next Date A Success

We came across this article from Ask Men offering clever tricks to make any date go smoother. They promise these effortless moves are guaranteed to make your next date a success. Some of our favorite tips include:

See A Comedy Show. This one works in the same way as the dinner after the movie -- it's a surefire conversation starter. "Can you believe he said that?!" or "What joke would you tell if you had to perform standup?"

Figure Out Her Favorite Food. Ask her what her favorite food is, and no matter what her answer, say you know the best place for that in the city and that's where you're taking her on your second date. If you don't really know of a place in advance, just say it's a surprise and do your research later. Regardless, you'll have secured date number two!

The Eye Contact Trick. When keeping good eye contact, alternate your focus from eye to eye. Supposedly it creates a sparkle in your eye and it's a good way to avoid dead stares.

Buy A Lottery Ticket Together. If you're walking by a corner store, go in and buy a lottery ticket together. It will make for great banter on the date. You can hypothesize on what you guys should do with the money when you win and where you should go. It gives you great text flirt banter for post-date, and you get to check the numbers together.

Recently Single? 5 Tips For Getting Over A Breakup

Write Or Talk It Out. Write out your thoughts in a journal, chat with a close friend, have a good cry. Writing and talking about it can help you process and gain some clarity as to why the relationship didn’t work.

Take Care Of Your Body. We often think looking our best as a way to get revenge on an ex, but be careful not to punish yourself with food. A balanced and healthy diet can help counteract the physiological stress of a breakup. Also, be careful to avoid mindless eating. It’s ok to indulge a little bit, but don’t turn to food as a coping mechanism.

Get Active! Getting your endorphins pumping through cardio exercise is often prescribed as a way to get over a breakup, and for good reason: Going for a run or hitting the elliptical can lower your stress levels, improve cognitive functioning and boost your mood -- in addition to providing a healthy distraction from your worries. 

Remind Yourself Of All The Great Things In Your Life. Painful breakups can cloud your thinking so that it's almost impossible to look beyond the immediate feelings of pain and loss. Practicing gratitude can help to even out your moods and get you get back into a more positive headspace. Studies have shown that listing things you're thankful for can boost your well-being and brighten your outlook on life, so start making a list!

Do Things YOU Love. Treat yourself to something that make you feel good, whether it's a cup of coffee with a friend or a massage. Self-care is essential to the healing process! Check out the latest comedy at the movies, laughing has been shown to boost your mood and improve overall health.

For more tips on getting over a breakup, check out this article.

After you have time to heal, the next step for getting over a breakup is to jump back into the dating scene! Give our office a call, we’ll get to know you and what you’re looking for in a relationship and start matching and taking care of all the arrangements right away! 

Eye Contact in Dating

For many professional singles, eye contact is a critical aspect of building connections with others for dating and for networking. However, the invention of smartphones seems to have created a worldwide epidemic resulting in the decline of eye contact among professional singles all over the world. Could you be sending your date the wrong message through your eye contact?

In the case of eye contact in dating, too much can come off as slightly aggressive and even intimidating, while too little can be portrayed as a lack of interested in the person trying to communicate with you. Unfortunately, many professional singles are unaware of the message they may be sending through their eye contact. Shy singles, for instance, tend to glance around a lot and avoid eye contact because it makes them uncomfortably nervous talking to someone they are super interested in. On the opposite end of the spectrum, confident singles can sometimes overdo the eye contact when they are really interested in someone but end up sending a creepy vibe to the recipient of their eye flirting.

If you want send the right message with your eye contact, the right amount of eye contact to make would be about 5-7 seconds before looking away. It’s important to maintain eye contact throughout a conversation because it shows that you are listening and that you are present with them as opposed to thinking about something else or tuning them out completely. After about 5-7 seconds of eye contact, that’s when you start to feel like you may be staring. At that point, shift your eye contact to a nearby facial feature as a focal point. A popular place to divert eye contact without looking away is the space between their eyes right above the nose near the middle of the forehead. Another place to look is the lips. The lips are especially great place to look to indicate some level of attraction and build chemistry.

Questions To Ask On A First Date To Spark Conversation

First dates can sometime be filled with nervousness butterflies and jitters. To help ease your first date jitters and keep the conversation moving, try one of these questions to spark conversation.

1.)  How was your day? It’s a simple question yet it can be easily forgotten. The question can also lead into follow up questions for conversation on what they do for fun, their job and what little things he/she may like or not like in their daily life. 

2.) What’s the best meal you’ve ever had? Instead of asking the predictable “What’s your favorite kind of food?” question, ask something more specific. You’ll likely get an entertaining story about food rather than a one-word answer that can lead into a conversation about hobbies/interests, favorite dining areas (which could help with planning date #2!) or favorite vacation destinations. 

3.)  In which television show’s world would you most want to live? Pop culture can both bond and divide us. Keeping the conversation light and fun for a first date is really important….save the heavy stuff for down the road when a relationship is actually going somewhere!

4.) If you could have dinner with anyone, dead or alive, who would it be? You’ll learn more about your date and what qualities make a person interesting to them. Just like the best meal question, this question can also spark follow up conversation on hobbies/interests, likes/dislikes, etc. while keeping the conversation fun and not too heavy.