Colorado Singles Scene by It's Just Lunch

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to be a client?

Earlier this month, a client that will go by the initials B.R. joined It’s Just Lunch. He is a successful business owner and published writer and has promised to use his creativity and writing skills to blog about his experience dating with It’s Just Lunch. As First Date Specialists and matchmakers, we are excited to send him on fun, first dates and hopefully find him someone special.

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to be a client in our office? He’ll post about his experiences, his dates and his thoughts on the dating process as he goes through his membership. If you have a question for him, leave us a comment and B.R. will answer any questions that you may have. We'll introduce you to B.R. next week...stay tuned!

Did you hear the latest study about online dating? We agree with it!

A group of psychology professors released a report explaining why there is no substitute for meeting face-to-face.

Eli Finkel, a psychology professor and one of the authors says the typical online dating website doesn’t improve one’s chances of meeting a compatible mate because you can’t judge chemistry based on what you’re reading on a computer screen. According to the study, the websites may be able to predict who appeals to an individual (based on their match algorithm) “in a profile but not necessarily in person”. He advised, “There’s no better way to figure out whether you’re compatible with somebody than talking to them over a cup of coffee or a pint of beer.”

At It’s Just Lunch, we agree. We take care of all the work for you…from matching you with someone you’re compatible with to coordinating the logistics of your date, so you can skip straight to the fun part of actually going on the date face-to-face and in-person!

To read their additional research about online dating, check out the report here.

A great note from a former client....

We recieved this letter from a past client over the weekend. What a great way to start a week, thanks for sharing your story with us Patty...we are so excited for you!

Dear IJL Denver staff,

I am so incredibly thankful for It’s Just Lunch . . . the prospect of dating, let alone learning to date again at middle age is quite daunting!  Everyone who is turning to a variety of “dating- again” options is doing so in hopes, to meet at least one good person, that they can connect with and enjoy some companionship with. Not every option available is one that feels safe and secure or optimizes matching you with someone carefully, instead of by age or how you look.

As a middle-age widow with teenage kids, getting back into dating is tough enough . . .meeting someone decent is even more challenging which is why It’s Just Lunch became my choice for meeting  good, decent matches made by people other than myself.

I found that putting me in the hands of others, qualified to entrust this task with was far easier than I realized. Once I gave them my trust and an investment of myself, I was learning to date again at an age where life is in such a different place from before.  I was not looking to love and marry again, just for good companionship. I was open to this new adventure and welcomed meeting others like me but was not expecting to actually find love again. After a number of first dates and a few stalled–out next dates, I was introduced to someone that has changed my life for the better and because of It’s Just Lunch, I have met the love of my life.

 Thank you, It’s Just Lunch Denver!

-Patricia

Debunking Dating Myths: Who Pays on the Date

It’s Just Lunch recently surveyed singles to ask them a variety of questions when it comes to first dates and what men and women really think on the topic of dating.  We just talked about attraction and now we’ll focus on another topic that can be controversial with dating: money.  

When it comes to money, this question comes up on a date both directly and indirectly (and we’ll cover the direct part in a second.) According to our survey, both men and women candidly agreed that they want the other to make more money, which kind of brings us to an impasse. However, from what we can deduce, this isn’t about who brings home a larger paycheck. This is simply a matter of being on equal footing. While it’s nice to be able to pay for dinner or treat someone to an outing, it’s also nice to get some reciprocity once in a while.

On that note, our survey results revealed that seven out of ten women don’t always want the guy to pay the bill—and guys believed the same thing. Picking up the tab is certainly a nice gesture on a first or second dinner date, but it often isn’t required. The way we see it, if the guy picks up a tab at dinner; ladies, if you’re clicking along and having fun, treat him to an after dinner drink. Guys, if your date kindly insists on splitting the bill at dinner and you’re heading out for more fun, pick up her movie or drink tab later in the night.

To close out Part 1 of our survey, we asked both men and women the following question: “would women rather have champagne and lobster or burgers and a beer.” Again, the results were pretty clear on both sides, with 71% of men and an 82% of women responding that burgers and beers trump lobster and bubbly on a first or second date. Why? Simply put, the point of dating is to get to know someone. While it’s certainly important to impress, a nice yet casual dinner puts both men and women at ease and allows both personalities to emerge naturally. Head to a fancy restaurant, and you might not be as open as you think. Relaxed confidence is always sexy, so be human when you’re starting out and you might just click with your date better than you initially think.

Feedback Friday

“Lucy is a great conversationalist; we had a lot of fun on our date. She is charming, we hit it off! I liked that she was bright, witty and she’s beautiful. She definitely has her stuff together and had a great sense of humor. We made plans to go out this weekend!”-Jim, 42

“Jim and I spent over 2 hours together! We laughed a lot and we had a lot in common which led to a great conversation. He asked me out for Saturday night and I agreed. He’s an interesting guy, very funny, cute and family oriented. He’s really a great guy; I’m looking forward to Saturday!”-Lucy, 42