By: Cassi Rosso
Dating isn’t what it used to be. Instead of a guy asking permission to date a man’s daughter or courting like dating had been years ago; the new way to meet people is at the touch of our smartphones – through technology. Is this a good or a bad thing? In my opinion, it’s not very personal and the relationship is going to lack a certain level of chemistry. Although everyone grows with the times I think that dating should stay old-school, meaning: dating is all about an in-person connection rather than seeing a person’s pictures online or having an entire relationship through text messaging (yes, this unfortunately happens all the time). You can’t predict chemistry – even if you feel like you know each other really well from your conversations online or over the phone – things can change in an instant when you meet in person.
How much of our daily lives are spent on our computers, phones, or having stimulating conversation via technology in a given day? Fifty years ago – even 15 years ago – things were much different. When it comes to dating, I always suggest taking the ‘old school’ approach and actually MEET. IN PERSON. Crazy idea, right!?
As much as the times have changed, there is still an in-person chemistry that must be present – whether it be emotional or physical – the connection is needed for a successful relationship blossom. Technology will only get you so far, and nobody likes to be disappointed. I suggest you don’t waste so much time online – I’ve heard so many stories of singles investing weeks, months, hundreds of emails and phone calls on a potential relationship only to find out when they finally meet in person the spark is non-existent. Seriously – what a waste of time! If you are going to use online dating – check to see that the basic of the basic criteria is there with your match, then fast forward and schedule a date. Who cares if it’s essentially a blind date, at least you won’t have invested weeks of your life into something that is going to flop completely. Anyone can sound great on paper, but the in-person chemistry is what actually counts.
Technology is helpful in many ways but as far as making a relationship work through it or beginning one from it is questionable at best. Your time is precious and shouldn’t be wasted on an idea – go out and seek the real thing. Wouldn’t you rather know right away than spend months hoping this is the right path for you? I think yes.
Oh, and on your date – put down your phone.
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