Who doesn’t love a good vacation? A time to get away, travel to a new destination, and take a break from the daily grind. Maybe you’ve been dating someone new or have been with your significant other for almost a year now – how do you know you are ready to take your first vacation together?
This first getaway can be a great opportunity to further your relationship and take things to another level. When planning, keep these tips in mind to guide you through your first vaca as a couple.
Don’t have expectations or build the vacation up to be a romantic fairytale. Be realistic and understand that like any other vacation, unexpected things will happen.
For your first vacation, try a long weekend instead of a full week.
At a minimum, date for at least 4-6 weeks before even thinking about vacationing together. Prior to planning the trip, discuss if the two of you are monogamous.
Don’t choose a destination you would hate, but your partner would love. Discuss a variety of different vacation destinations and decide where you want to go together.
Discuss if the two of you would prefer an active, adventurous trip or a relaxing vacation by the pool? Choose a destination that caters to both of your interests or try something completely new for both of you!
Keep the travel time to a reasonable minimum. Save that 12 hour international flight for an anniversary or special occasional later on in your relationship!
Make sure you are comfortable around him/her. Don’t jump into it too soon if you aren’t ready to take a vacation together.
Before booking the vacation discuss the finances of the trip. If it’s early on in the relationship, it’s probably a good idea to split the trip expenses down the middle.
Most importantly, the vacation should be about spending quality time together and getting to know each other on a deeper level. However, you don’t need to spend every second together either. For example, if squeezing in your daily workout is important to you, don’t be afraid to take an hour or two to yourself to hit the gym.
Be flexible, don’t be too critical! In the chance the first vacation goes horrible, don’t worry too much. This doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed. Think about what went wrong and why? This is the perfect opportunity to work on the relationship and make it stronger.
Be completely open, discuss any fears you have prior to going on the vacation.
Pay attention to how you interact with each other throughout the vacation and planning process.
Rather than planning out every minute of the vacation, decide on goals you want to accomplish! This way you will have options of what to do, without being too rigid.
Above all, live in the moment and enjoy your time together – vacations are about quality time, new experiences and creating memories!
Every single day our team hears dozens of positive feedback stories – sometimes way too many to share with everyone. Here is a highlight of some of our favorite feedback from this month!
“I felt like we had a really nice time. I enjoyed myself and liked her. We had quite a bit in common (professional backgrounds) and talked shop for a bit. We talked about hobbies and those seemed to line up as well (skiing, mountain biker, etc.) She’s familiar with the more rural lifestyle I lead.”
- IJL Denver female, age 50
“She was a polite person which really stood out and was a big reason why I liked her. I was a little uncertain in gauging her interest and was just going to leave but she seemed like she wanted me to walk her to her car so I asked if she’d like to do something again and she said absolutely. I was attracted to her! She is pretty and SO polite! I could tell she wanted to be treated like a gal.”
- IJL Denver male, 57
“Went pretty well. 2.5 hours. Good convo. Liked her, she's intelligent, she's pretty attractive. She has pretty natural features. I do want to see her again – I admire her education and career, I was very impressed by her. She likes the outdoors, likes to ski and bike. She has a lot to work with!”
- Elite Denver male, age 54
“He's very attractive. The most I’ve been attracted to so far. He was very nice and has a good sense of humor! He is a very different type of personality than I’ve dated, which was intriguing – we also have similar values. I like that he's very active, and we have similar aspirations in life. He seems sensitive, calm and friend/family oriented. I would absolutely like to go out again!”
- IJL Denver female client, age 29
“She has a great personality and we share a similar outlook on life. I liked that we had many similar interests and that she is family oriented. I was attracted to her and am excited to see where it goes. We spent four hours together! It was a hit!”
- IJL Denver female client, age 30
“It was great! She’s a beautiful woman, two thumbs up! We had a lot to talk about and stayed until we both realized we were late getting back to work after lunch! She’s lovely, has a nice personality, just a really, really nice woman! Definitely plan on getting together again!”
- IJL Denver male client, age 47
This feedback is a great reminder that keeping an open mind when dating can change your results for the better. Don’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone to try something new and different. You may be surprised where
Spring is in full effect and summer is rapidly approaching. What better time for a fresh start. Whether you have been out of the dating game for a few months or years, now is the time to step back into the dating scene. Most importantly, focus on moving forward. Get excited for the future! It’s Just Lunch has your full guide to springing back into the dating scene – everything from preparing for a first date to spring date ideas in Denver!
When getting back into dating, it’s important to focus on making a fresh start. Don’t bring up hurt feelings or drama from past relationships. For example, avoid talking about your ex. If the conversation is brought up, stay neutral.
Interacting with new and interesting people is the perfect way to get back into the dating scene. Get involved—join a new club, start going to a fitness class, pick up an art class, etc. Be aware and live in the moment; you never know where you might meet your next partner.
Positivity is crucial. Rather than dwelling on the negative, focus on what you’ve learned from the past and how to move forward.
Always dress to impress. Wear something that makes you feel polished, comfortable and confident.
Maybe it’s trying a new hair style, buying a new outfit or rejoining the gym. Make a point to freshen up your look. It may just be something small but it’s about giving yourself the confidence to succeed in reentering the dating scene.
Take it slow, keep expectations low and allow yourself to ease back into dating. Don’t make an unrealistic timeline for meeting someone. Avoid putting too much pressure on yourself. Live in the moment and focus on getting to know your date, rather than thinking too far into the future. Have fun and enjoy the process.
Know what you want out of a relationship and what you are willing to give. Get current with yourself. After being out of the dating scene for a while, it’s important to reevaluate what you are looking for in a match.
Prior to going on the date, brainstorm conversation topics to help ease any nerves. Keep conversation topics fun and lighthearted.
Don’t let fear control your dating life! Don’t limit yourself by passing up women or men who aren’t your “type.” If you see a pattern in your dating history, it might be time to break away from the past. Broaden your dating spectrum and you might be surprised what happens!
Focus on your strengths, rather than your weaknesses. Confidence is attractive and smiles are contagious.
You may be ready to start dating again, you’ve found someone who catches your interest, but now what? Where do you go? Is the classic dinner and movie date, the way to go? Colorado is a beautiful place to be in the late spring and early summer. Take advantage of the weather and plan an outdoor date! Below are just a few ideas to help you spring back into dating.
Plan an afternoon at the Denver Zoo.
Enjoy drinks and entertainment at a local taproom, such as Stem Ciders’ live bluegrass music every Thursday or Chain Reaction’s comedy night every Sunday.
Visit the Chamberlin Observatory and enjoy some star gazing.
Take a bike ride through Washington Park.
Go on a local safari at the Wild Animal Sanctuary in Keenesburg.
Explore the Cherry Creek Fresh Market and buy supplies for a picnic.
Spend the evening at Peaks Lounge for cocktails while you watch the sunset behind the Rocky Mountains.
Take an art walk along Santa Fe Drive and enjoy music, art and entertainment on a first Friday of each month during the summer.