By: Sabrina Lorbiecki
Ladies, can you leave behind your take control attitude and allow a true gentleman to court you?
For many women who are leaders in their industry allowing anyone else to be in the lead is difficult. However, when it comes to dating you have to remember you cannot control everything. While you can pick the time of your date or the location you have no control over how your date will act. You need to remember you are not on a job interview or leading a team meeting – this is a DATE! The date needs to flow naturally. This can be difficult to do when you regularly are the leader of the boardroom, but when it comes to dating, you have to take that hat off, be yourself, and most of all – relax and have fun!
My top advice: show up on time, feel good about what you are wearing, and be a good listener. These 3 things can lead to the outcome you want. When you like the man sitting across from you, make sure he knows it! He can’t read your mind, so you need to make sure your words and actions make it clear to him you are enjoying the time you are spending together. Smile, have a back and forth conversation and say “this is fun” or “we should do this again” – but most of all FLIRT! Flirting is fun and shows your date you’re having a good time.
First dates should be short, make sure there is chemistry and that you have some common values. Keep these conversation topics light and fun, there is no need to recap a person’s entire dating history or financial situation on the first few dates! (On the second and third dates you can dig a little deeper to make sure you are like-minded and have similar values.) When leaving the first date, make suggestions about what you would like to do on other dates. Suggest good times that you are available to talk. Remind him that you enjoyed your time and seeing him again would be of interest to you and that Tuesdays work best. Lastly, make plans for your second date before you part ways from the first date – that way there is absolutely no confusion about how the date went for either party.
A man who is interested wants to make a good impression, so he might need a day or two to respond. He might be thinking of the best way to ask you out again. A gentleman will respond when he knows he has time in his schedule to go on another date! Again, you cannot control when he calls again but when he does – answer the phone with a smile so he knows you are happy he called!
Just remember, dating should be fun and don't put too much pressure on yourself! Sit back, relax, and enjoy the ride. Happy dating!