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Is there just some big computer that spits out matches?

Of course not! Everything we do is personalized-from the first time we meet you, to the matches that we select for you. Matchmaking is not a science; it’s a process of getting to know you and what you’re  looking for and using that information—and our instincts—to select the people who are the best match for you.

How do the dates work?

Once we’ve selected a match for you, we’ll call you to tell you all about the person and why we think you will make a great match. Confidentiality is key! Only first names are provided and we never reveal a match’s address or phone number. We’ll provide you with plenty of details about your match that will help jump start conversation once you meet! Everything we’ve learned about you—as well as the feedback you’ve provided throughout your membership –plays a role in the matching process.

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Sharing our favorite feedback of the week...

“The date with Nicole was great! Her smile was beautiful and she had such a positive attitude. I will see her again, it was a great fit.”-Josh, 42

“Good! He’s very nice. Really funny too! He’s social, positive and kind. I’m not sure if we had chemistry but he’s absolutely hilarious and I found myself becoming more attracted to him as I learned more about him. I’ll definitely go out with Josh again. He’s so witty, really smart. Just a wonderful guy!”-Nicole, 39

Body Language Do's and Don'ts

Recently on “Good Morning America”, they featured a dating segment that sent two single female volunteers out into the New York City bar scene to see what works and what doesn’t in today’s dating world. Tonya Reiman, body language expert and author of “The Body Language of Dating”, analyzed their body language and compiled a list of some Do’s and Don’ts when it comes to body language and some signals to look for to see how interested he is in you!

Do’s:

• Be self-aware. It’s the No. 1 most important fact to know what signals you are sending.
• Look your interest in the eye and break eye contact by looking down and looking back up.
• Wear natural scents such as vanilla and lavender.
• Tilt your head to the left (studies show this is more sexually attractive).
• Nod your head when he is speaking.

Don’ts

• Hunched shoulders are a turn off.
• Cross your arms in front of your body (not only does it indicate you are defensive, but studies have found we absorb less information when we close our body language).
• Don’t rub your hands together.
• Rub or touch your nose.
• Slouch in a chair.

He is interested if …

• He looks at you and his eyebrows go up – this indicates interest
• His lips part slightly.
• He looks you up and down slowly.
• You are his sole focus of attention (you are the only one in the room, metaphorically).
• Posturing — erect stance, chest out, shoulders back, stomach in.

For more body language do’s and don’ts, click here for more tips from Reiman.

Feedback Friday

The date with Amy went well! She’s very attractive, great energy and outgoing. She has a great sense of humor, we laughed together all night. We’re planning a 2^nd date!- Brian, 46

It was really great! We had a lot of fun, he’s very good looking, he’s tall and he’s so friendly. Very much the gentleman! We had a lot in common too which made for a great conversation between us. We spent 3 hours together and already made plans for our 2^nd date. I’m so excited right now, I feel like a teenager again! – Sandra, 46

We had a lot in common it was unreal! She’s very kind, very nice and really attractive. We have some mutual friends in common; I’m surprised we haven’t run into each other at certain events. I’m looking forward to our 2^nd date this weekend.-Denny, 50

Dating Material or Relationship Material?

If the chemistry and compatibility is right, most men and women start thinking about when they want see each other again. However, are they merely thinking about a second date, or are they thinking about a relationship? Hold on to your hats, guys: 45% reflected on a first date and then asked yourselves, “Is she relationship material?” On the other hand, almost 51% of women are more likely to consider whether they want a second date or not, while 39% asked themselves if a guy was relationship material.

Even though it seems a lot can happen within the first hour of a date that makes a single decide whether or not they want to see someone again, the best thing to do is just slow it down. Dating, and much like the relationships that can follow, are marathons; not sprints. With all the complex intricacies that can occur on in a first date, it’s tough to expect perfection. If we let our guards down a bit and relax, have fun, be comfortable in our own skin and make our dates comfortable in theirs, you’ll never know what kind of surprises you’ll discover.

Confidence Has A Lot To Do With Interviewing… That, and Timing

The comparison may seem a little cold, but let’s face it: first dates are very much like interviews. Exude confidence, be comfortable in your own skin, be interested and kind to your first date, and chances are you’ll get a second one. However, there is a window in which most people decide on whether or not they’ll want to see someone again. According to our respondents, 44% of women and 46% of men decide within the first twenty minutes whether or not a second date is in the cards. The good news is that since a previous survey in 2004, both men and women are gradually deciding later and later in the date as to whether or not they want to see each other again. For example, in 2004, almost 80% of guys decided whether or not to take a woman out again within the first 15 minutes!

Would you date a nerd or a geek?

We came across this article and infographic about the differences between a geek and a nerd. Check out the article here: Are you a geek or a nerd? [Infographic] | memeburn. Which one would you rather date?

 

From: MastersInIt.org

Infographic: MasterInIT

"She’s cute, down to earth and we had a lot in common....."

It was nice meeting Joan! I really enjoyed myself. She’s attractive, articulate, great sense of humor and we have similar views on a lot of things. We are meeting on Friday night for our 2^nd date! – Jeff, 55

Jeff and I had a great date. The chemistry was really there! We had lots in common, same world views. We are definitely on the same level and we have a great conversation. I’m already planning my outfit for our 2^nd date on Friday. –Joan, 43

She was great! It was a very good date, thank you. She’s cute, down to earth, a lot in common. I invited her to see a Wild game, I really liked her!-Dave, 36

You Can’t Force Chemistry… But You Can Coax It Along

So what is chemistry? Most people aren’t sure exactly what it is, but they know it when they feel it. If you have good chemistry with someone, such as on a first date, you’ll want to pursue more time with him or her. If there is bad chemistry, then it’s unlikely you’ll want to see each other again. Whatever the case, most singles – almost 66% of our respondents – said that chemistry is the single most important part of a first date; more so than even initial compatibility. While a couple may not be perfect on paper, a first date may reveal a lot more than what is in a profile. In fact, almost 44% of singles said that if they “felt comfortable being themselves” it meant the first date was a success. And listen up, ladies: 49% of men said that being able to feel comfortable as themselves on a first date was a sure sign of a good one.

On occasion, there will be times where a first date will reveal no chemistry whatsoever. While this isn’t a bad thing, it might mean that one person wasn’t comfortable opening up, or perhaps there was mutual defensiveness on both sides. Again, while you can’t necessarily force chemistry, you can take some of the tips we have covered on our blog to help coax it in the right direction. And remember, everyone has butterflies and jitters on their first date, so be open to trying a 2^nd date…you never know!

The Relationship Status Update

Facebook, Twitter and other social media outlets has changed the rules of dating and relationships. The team at Lab42 conducted a study on how people treat relationships with social media and conducted this survey on 500 social network users ages 18+. Check out our results below. What do you think?